As usual the Captain spiels some gold here. Great advice about a topic so many of us peeps on dating sites wonder about – what is the right answer? Sometimes I just freeze when I see or hear that question and I like the idea of turning it back on the asker. Some sound advice here and I think the take-home message is that we are all individuals muddling through this thing.
Dear Captain Awkward,
How do I respond to the ‘what are you looking for’ question? It feels like no matter what I say it’s never the right answer. If I say I want a relationship I feel like that reads as ‘I’m desperate to get married and have babies’ which I’m not (been there, done that). And, if I say I’m open to something casual then it reads as ‘I have no self-worth, this is an open invitation for you to use me for sex without any regard for my feelings or basic human decency’ (100% nope). I also hate that I might unintentionally give the other person certain expectations or drive them away before I’ve had a chance to get to know them and figure out what, if anything, I want from them.
Personally, I don’t go looking for a particular type of relationship. I just look for someone…
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